September 6, 2020

This piece appeared in Mishpacha back in July -- sorry it is late to the blog!

The picture of the man in the white coat is my maternal grandfather, and I am proud. Proud of his legacy, and proud that this image — of a man who served others, and “the other” — is ingraine...

May 14, 2020

May 2021

Dear Alexandra,

I know you are wondering how you could possibly be reading a letter dated May 2021, so I’ll explain. This letter is from the future, from next year at this time, and I’m your future self, writing to you because I know you need to read this in May...

April 3, 2020

There’s a hidden, powerful force behind the organizations that service our Jewish communities: volunteers. Our institutions – from Bikur Cholim to our day schools to our shuls – thrive due to the unpaid, behind-the-scenes volunteers who make things happen. Community me...

March 2, 2020

Which is easier, giving or taking? When presented the opportunity to give to someone else or be a receiver, which would you prefer? In reality, both giving and receiving take mesirus nefesh – and when I had the opportunity to be a receiver this summer, it forced me to...

November 14, 2019

recently heard a speaker urging people not to get stuck in the toil of everyday life, of work and career, of pursuing gashmiyus, and instead to make our lives more spiritual and Torah-focused. Yet I couldn’t help but bristle with a bit of defensiveness as I thought o...

August 22, 2019

My daughter came back from sleepaway camp with the usual: dirty laundry, half-eaten snacks, and a yearbook of memories. But this year, she came home with something she’d never previously experienced so powerfully: inspiration. And a commitment to sustain the growth sh...

June 19, 2019

To the Graduates of the Class of 2019,

You made it out, right? Twelve-plus years of the day school system are now behind you, you took your last set of finals, and you walked out those school doors free as a bird. Now your life can finally begin.

For some of you, a year...

May 22, 2019

When I recently saw the following quote, “Parenting was so much easier when I raised my non-existent children hypothetically,” I could identify, not just because I am a parent who is raising actual humans, but because it speaks to the very essence of a struggle I’ve ha...

March 15, 2019

Mishpacha’s theme issue “Checks and Balances” held special resonance for me. One of my first forays into writing came about four years ago with a phone call from my rav. Rabbi Moshe Hauer, who served on the editorial board of the journal Klal Perspectives, asked me to...

January 23, 2019

Lately, I’ve been all over the idea of grit. My high-schooler needs to research sources for a project on presidential campaigns? Good, it builds perseverance. My son’s rebbi insists my son say the Gemara more clearly in class? Great, he’ll learn persistence. My kids wa...

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